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Daddy
Feb 26, 2008 18:40:33 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Feb 26, 2008 18:40:33 GMT 1
My beloved Daddy passed away at 5.15am yesterday morning - My sister, my eldest daughter and I were with him and held him and cuddled him and loved him, we always will. He knew he was dying and we said our goodbyes, it was very traumatic and emotional but it was very special and intimate. I am totally heartbroken and at the minute dont know how I am going to come to terms with the loss but I have very good support from my family. Dawn x
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Daddy
Feb 26, 2008 19:27:24 GMT 1
Post by daisey on Feb 26, 2008 19:27:24 GMT 1
Dear Dawn, so very sorry to hear the news about your Dad. Sending much love and a huge hug! No words......................... love Daisey x
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Daddy
Feb 26, 2008 19:28:37 GMT 1
Post by Deanne Jenkyns on Feb 26, 2008 19:28:37 GMT 1
Oh Dawn honey, I have tears rolling down my cheeks reading your post. I am so very sorry. I know how special your Dad is to you and that you were very close. I am so glad that you were with him at the end. Sending you all huge (((((hugs)))))
Deanne xxx
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Daddy
Feb 26, 2008 20:25:53 GMT 1
Post by jljenkyns on Feb 26, 2008 20:25:53 GMT 1
Dawn, sorry about your Dad, I know you were very close, you are in our thoughts.
Jim x
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Daddy
Feb 27, 2008 19:14:07 GMT 1
Post by sam07 on Feb 27, 2008 19:14:07 GMT 1
Hi Dawn So very sorry about your dad, life is so unfair. Im so glad you and your daughter were with him and he would of knew that. He fought a very brave fight. My thoughts are with you and your family take care. Sam xxx
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Daddy
Feb 28, 2008 0:18:09 GMT 1
Post by Vicky on Feb 28, 2008 0:18:09 GMT 1
Dear Dawn,
I am so sorry to hear about your dad ((((hugs))))) Thinking about you and your family during this difficult time.
Love Vicky xxxxx
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Daddy
Feb 28, 2008 7:56:11 GMT 1
Post by norfolkbirdie on Feb 28, 2008 7:56:11 GMT 1
Dawn My thoughts go out to you and your family. I am so very sorry for the loss of your Dad, like Deanne I know from your posts how special a Dad he was to you and I am so glad you were all able to be together for the "au revoir" never a goodbye! I hope you all get through the next few days and weeks by holding on to all the good memories before this awful disease took hold. Take care RosX
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Daddy
Feb 28, 2008 22:56:43 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Feb 28, 2008 22:56:43 GMT 1
Hi everyone Thanks for all your kind words they are very much appreciated. Even tho I was expecting Dad to pass away it was very sudden at the end and still a terrible shock. His funeral is on Monday afternoon and I hope we will be able to do him proud - he prepared everything down to the last detail, all the hymns and readings etc. I am hoping to be able to do a reading - I hope I dont break down ! Ian says he will be next to me and finish it if I cant. My husband has been amazing thru all of this - looking after the kids whilst I spent as much time as possible with Dad and comforting me thru my darkest hours. I love him so much. Dawn x
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Daddy
Feb 29, 2008 21:58:34 GMT 1
Post by Deanne Jenkyns on Feb 29, 2008 21:58:34 GMT 1
Hi Dawn, I don't think that anyone can ever prepare themselves for the loss of someone close to them no matter how long they have been ill. Your Dad put up one hell of a fight, he had a wonderful caring family I can tell that from your posts and when I met you you spoke so warmly about him. Your Dad will be proud of you doing a reading, having your husband by your side for extra support will hopefully get you through it. I admire you for doing it and so will everyone else hun. Will be thinking of you on Monday...I know you will all do your Dad proud he will be looking down on you all beaming with pride!
Love and ((((hugs))) Deanne xxx
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Daddy
Mar 2, 2008 17:11:51 GMT 1
Post by sam07 on Mar 2, 2008 17:11:51 GMT 1
Hi Dawn Nothing prepares you even though you know its going to happen its like a numbness and god does it hurt. Will be thinking of you tommorrow, I hope your reading goes well. Sam x x x
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Daddy
Mar 2, 2008 23:14:54 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Mar 2, 2008 23:14:54 GMT 1
Thanks for all your support everyone. Love to all Dawn x
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Daddy
Mar 3, 2008 21:49:51 GMT 1
Post by wendy on Mar 3, 2008 21:49:51 GMT 1
Hi Dawn So very sorry to hear about your Dad, boy he sounded a wonderful character, but so pleased that you were there with him he must have taken great comfort from that. Hope all went well today. Hugs and love WendyXXXXXXXXXXXX
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Daddy
Mar 5, 2008 22:17:12 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Mar 5, 2008 22:17:12 GMT 1
Hi all Dad's funeral was ok and I managed to do a reading - strength came from somewhere because it was the only time I was strong during the whole day, I think !!. Looking back it seems as if it is all a dream and I am hoping that I wake up and that my Dad is fit and well. My friends keep saying that I am still in shock and that it is shock that protects you and keeps you going - apparently it is all part of the grieving process. I try not to think too much about my Dad at the minute as the memories are raw and painful - hopefully very soon my happy memories will return and I will remember my beloved Dad as a big fit happy man. Love to you all Dawn x
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Daddy
Mar 6, 2008 13:38:55 GMT 1
Post by Deanne Jenkyns on Mar 6, 2008 13:38:55 GMT 1
Hi Dawn, Your Dads funeral must have been so hard, I hope that the happy memories soon come flooding back and you are able to think of your Dad with a smile on your face. Well done on getting through the reading that must have been so difficult to do, everyone will have been so proud of you, including your Dad Dawn.
Take care, Deanne xxx
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Daddy
Mar 7, 2008 13:37:22 GMT 1
Post by norfolkbirdie on Mar 7, 2008 13:37:22 GMT 1
Hi Dawn Well done for doing the reading and staying strong enough to do what you wanted to for your Dad. I think the term shock is nature's way of allowing us to deal with the immediate loss and without it we wouldn't be able to function. One of the things I have learned to do to cope since Dave died is that I always refer back to him by "what would he expect from me & want me to be" yes he would expect me to still love him, be sad, lonely, cry, be angry, miss him and all the other emotions but he would also want me to find a way through them all so that I would be able to function and "live" I am still working my way through this and the basic functions are coming back again although I have days like today, when I can't be bothered and just have a good "feel sorry for me". I hope you can think of your dad in the same way and that it helps to get you through this awful time. The good memories are all there just waiting to appear and suprise you.
I wish I was better at helping others through words but know that your friends here are here for you and sometimes venting on this site has helped me enormously as you and others have been there to respond, so we are here for you now. Take care Ros
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Daddy
Mar 7, 2008 20:25:48 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Mar 7, 2008 20:25:48 GMT 1
Oh Ros thank you so much - your post has helped me a great deal. My Dad told me before he died that he wanted me to carry on with my life - he knew that I would be sad and grieve for him but he told me not to dwell on the bad memories, to think of good things - I am trying to do that - it is so hard tho, as you know Ros. The prominent image of him at the minute was the last one and I am trying to think of my Dad when he was fit and well - he was a huge personality and has left a massive void in our lives but with the help of my family and friends I hope to be able to come to terms with things. I hope you are doing ok and I am sending you big hugs Dawn xx
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Daddy
Mar 19, 2008 10:49:36 GMT 1
Post by sam07 on Mar 19, 2008 10:49:36 GMT 1
Hi Dawn Just a little note, to see how your doing really? I hope you have lots of support. Such a whole has been left in our lives im sure you feel the same. Thinking of you Take care Sam xxx
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Daddy
Mar 20, 2008 0:04:46 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Mar 20, 2008 0:04:46 GMT 1
Hi Sam, Its good to hear from you. I agree there is a huge void and a terrible feeling of emptiness and sadness. Some mornings when I wake up I think it was all a terrble nightmare and then reality sets in and you get a slap in the face. How are you and your family doing ? Love Dawn x
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Daddy
Mar 20, 2008 14:57:28 GMT 1
Post by Deanne Jenkyns on Mar 20, 2008 14:57:28 GMT 1
Sam & Dawn, Sending you both massive (((((hugs))))))
Deanne xxx
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Daddy
Mar 20, 2008 15:17:48 GMT 1
Post by sam07 on Mar 20, 2008 15:17:48 GMT 1
Hi there We are not doing too bad, I am having bereavement counselling by Cruse. Its really helping talking to someone. I am very angry more than anything at everybody I dont mean to be but I guess its all part of grieving. Its the last breathe he took that I cant get out of my head, I lay awake most nights thinking why? Is there something else I could have done? Take care Sam x
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Daddy
Mar 20, 2008 23:58:07 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Mar 20, 2008 23:58:07 GMT 1
I feel the same Sam, I am trying to remember Dad the way he was before he was so ill but find it hard to rid myself of the worst image. I am assured that in time the bad memories will fade and the good ones will come to the fore. I hope it happens soon for both of us. God bless Hugs Dawn xxx
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Daddy
Mar 23, 2008 9:18:21 GMT 1
Post by wendy on Mar 23, 2008 9:18:21 GMT 1
Hi Dawn and Sam
You have both been through so much and the healing process takes a long time. Things will get easier with time but it takes a long time. My Dad died in 1994 and now 14 years later I think I have things in perspective. I feel very proud to have known such a wonderful and special person who was so loved by many. There were flashbacks and I could only remember him the way he was at the end. Live one day at a time, pace yourselves and things will get better......honest!
Love and hugs to you both. Wendy XXXX
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Daddy
Mar 23, 2008 22:00:25 GMT 1
Post by dtay on Mar 23, 2008 22:00:25 GMT 1
Thanks for this Wendy. Had a scary reality check today as I went to my sisters to look thru Dads stuff - old photos, clothes etc, it was a stark confirmation that my Dad has really gone - I think, if I am honest with myself, that I try most of the time to imagine that he is still living in Bristol with my sister and when I get a reality check it is a shock. love Dawn x
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Daddy
Mar 24, 2008 10:17:30 GMT 1
Post by sam07 on Mar 24, 2008 10:17:30 GMT 1
Thank you Wendy, Im hoping in time the visions will fade. Its funny Dawn I keep thinking dad has gone on a long holiday in the sun, he loved holidays abroad. Its just so final isnt it? Sam x
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Daddy
Mar 24, 2008 12:11:45 GMT 1
Post by wendy on Mar 24, 2008 12:11:45 GMT 1
Hi to you both So wish that I could do more to help or offer some miracle cure to ease the pain you are both suffering! Sorting through people's belongings is really hard as you feel as if you are invading their privacy, take your time. Just know that there are lots of people sending hugs and love. The good memories will come. hugs and love WendyXX
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